by Professor » Fri Jan 03, 2014 9:36 am
To what I believe is the crux of the conversation:
Is having a child (either one being born or yet to be born) in a split family going to be fair all the time? Nope. Sometimes, both parents want and deserve the child - and someone will get screwed. Sometimes one doesn't want the child, but will end up having to pay for it anyway.
But, I think that there is one universal constant to all this. If you agree to have sex with someone of the other gender, then you are agreeing to any and all consequences, however fair or unfair they might be, that come from having intercourse. Up to and including being forced to pay child support for a child that you don't want.
However, I have a single conundrum within my head. On one hand, my belief that women have a right to an abortion up until a fetus is viable outside the womb necessitates a belief that a fetus is not a "human life" up until that point. But, on the other hand, I do not believe that a woman should be able to have an abortion if the man is ready, willing, and able to take the child (which means calling it a human before that viability point). I cannot logically reconcile those two beliefs. However, if you held a gun to my head and made me choose, I'd have to side with a woman's right to have the abortion over a man's right to have a child.