as with most issues, the more you simplify the problem, the easier it is to digest and deal with on a personal level. so instead of focusing on gender issues, you focus on women's issues at the exclusion of men because the problem is ~patriarchy~. some feminists have gone so far as to say that mens issues are really feminist issues because ~the patriarchy~ hurts men almost as much as it hurts women.
wrap your mind around that cognitive dissonance.