A failed practice that's decimated the family? For many single mothers, the only thing between them and grinding poverty is child support payments. You will see far more families suffering as a result of discontinuing that practice. That is undeniable, even if you favour such "equality."
Why do you disagree with the court-ordered vasectomies? The government and the taxpayer will be picking up the cost of every child a man decides he doesn't want to pay for. Therefore, it is totally reasonable for the court to order a trivial day-surgery, less potentially damaging as abortion, in order to avoid any more financial burdens in the future.
If and when that man is ready to become a father, he can simply have a vasectomy reversal. I would be glad to pay for both procedures with taxpayer dollars, as the cost of them will be nothing compared to the savings.
This allows men the ability to have sex without having to worry about The Man oppressing them just because they had sex, while preventing them from doing the same thing, over and over again. It also alleviates the financial cost to taxpayers, who are being forced to pay for a child they don't even know so that the child's father doesn't have too.