Rape Culture

[exploited]

[nordictruce]

I don't want to start a flame war Exploited. You stated a lot of good things in your post, but I took offense to that last paragraph.

I think our fundamental difference is that you assume that men rape because they don't know better. I assume that men rape because they are pent up and frustrated.

I just don't imagine there are many men in prison on rape charges saying "damn man, I didn't know she didn't want me to put a drug in her drink and rape her while she was sleep"

[exploited]

No, I assume people rape because we are irrational animals that get caught up in the heat of the moment, and the best way to teach the average, normal person to avoid doing such things is to get them to recognize boundaries FAR IN ADVANCE of sexual assault. That means you start cracking down on behaviour that leads to such things. Which is why I entered this topic by relating a story about how I once pressured a girl into fooling around, and how, as a pretty average kid, it would have been nice to have had some real guidance about that. Nobody ever told me it was wrong to do what I did, and I assumed that so long as I didn't physically force the issue, it was good.

It's why we teach kids "don't hit" instead of "don't seriously hurt a person."

You are talking about a very small, very narrow fragment of rapists. The vast majority of rape and sexual assault isn't "put drug into drink, drag out of bar, rape in alleyway." It is "go to friends house, have too much to drink, get angry when she passes up advances, incrementally work up to the crime, while failing to recognize all the cues that should tell that person to stop what they are doing." So, so many rapists actually AREN'T aware that what they did was wrong. Many of them will literally say "I thought she wanted it," and it isn't just some excuse. They legitimately believe it. We can correct that by educating people, by making them emotionally intelligent, by informing them of reasonable limits that aren't as simplistic as "stop when she says no."

[nordictruce]

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[Philly]

Exploited is a republican?

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