Okay. What argument is he making then? Since I am reading the implications all wrong, and being disingenuous, perhaps you could reveal what the justification is for forcing the love of your life to stay home and take care of the kids, or you won't marry them? What logic drives such an ultimatum, and why is it justified?
I think that if a woman won't marry a guy because he refuses to be the sole provider, because that is his job as a man, that is sexist. What other reason could there be for saying it is one persons role to do something, other then sexism? How can a person make that declaration without embracing sexist logic?