You're actually right about the capital requirements--one of our regulars here says the solution is not to break up the TBTF banks, but the up the capital requirements as you say. Hell I don't care--one or the other. Whatever works.
You're also right about over-leveraged--in some cases these banks were overleveraged 35-1. That is insanity.
And you're right once more that small banks are getting the shaft from regulation whereas the TBTF banks get to walk right through it.